Sunday, October 17, 2010

Take A Moment To Say Thanks

A few nights ago I was in bed sleeping away; Until Mister came in our bed room making noise at 12:23am. He laid down for a few mins, and then said Babe you sleep? When I didn't answer you would think that maybe just maybe I was sleep, but not Mister he repeated his question, and then say Babe! Hey Babe! So I turned slowly and look at him! Mister proceeded to say did you notice I mop the kitchen floor when you got home? Then he says because you didn't say anything about it! After a long pause I finally said I'm sorry I intended to say something to you about it, but I was in such a rush to get dinner started after I got home from work. You would think that my reply was good enough right? So now I can go back to sleep right? Well it wasn’t!


It’s now 12:47am. And he is telling me he had trouble finding cleaner for the floor or what to use on the hardwood. Yes He really thinks I want to hear all this. I LOVE MY Husband but he likes to give me blow by blow of what he considers important parts to the story. Which is fine but not at 12:52am and I have to be at work at 6am.

Mister is now asking me if I'm Thankful That My Wonderful Husband mop the floor and I didn’t have to ask him. So at this point I should smile and say yes thank you and add a sweet thank you kiss. I had to think fast! Because what I wanted to say was, Ok SO YOU MOP ONE FLOOR IN 6YRS! It still don't compare to what I do around here with a full time job. But I should THANK YOU. Do you THANK ME when you go into the kitchen an get something to eat and drink? Because it wasn't Magic that put that in there! How about them clean clothes you keep putting on, who do you think wash, fold and put it away, the maid? Oh wait we don't have one. Not one time do I ask you to thank me I assume u appreciates it. But noooo you just had to wake me up at 12:23am and now its 1:34am just so I can say THANK YOU.

Of course I didn't say all that, I was thinking that in my head. I look at him with a smile and I told him Thanks so much sweetie for cutting my end of the night cleaning time down so I can spend more time with you and the baby. Then I gave him a sweet Thank You kiss. He was happy with my reply and rolled over and went to sleep.

See I decide that I’m going to be a Peacemaker in our marriage and in my home. It is a choice that I made. We all can choose to be peacemakers. I'm sure there are situation in your marriage or relationship when you had to LET IT GO! How is easy is that for you or is it something you’re still working on?

19 comments:

  1. GOOD MORNING SIS,

    I'M LOVING THE BLOG SIS! I COMMEND YOU ON BEING THE PEACEMAKE IN YOUR MARRIAGE. AS I HAVE REVEALED TO YOU BEFORE THIS IS A DIFFICULT TASK FOR ME. WHY? BECUZ REALITY IS THAT WHY SHOULD I AS A WIFE NOT BE FREE TO STAY WHAT'S ON MIND OR EXPRESS MY FEELINGS TO MY HUSBAND JUST BECUZ IT MAY RUFFLE HIS FEATHERS. LOL MEN DON'T SPARE OUR FEELINGS WHEN IT IS SOMETHING THEY DON'T LIKE OR UPSET THEM, THEY WILL TELL OR SHOW YOU JUST EXACTLY HOW THEY FEEL. I UNDERSTAND YOUR POINT OF VIEW BUT I JUST CAN'T KEEP THINGS BOTTLE UP INSIDE OF ME AND WEAR A FAKE SMILE JUST SO HE AND SLEEP BETTER. LOL....

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  2. Love this post! I know this is something I struggle with personally...being the peacemaker in the house, because when my husband irritates me, he hears about it. I am not one to keep my emotions bottled up, or letting go of petty things. I usually say something. My husband on the other hand is the peacemaker, and will bite his tongue...but I am sure that is cause he doesn't want to hear my mouth! LOL

    But I'm working on it, and I have learned that saying thank you goes a long way, so when my husband tries to do things around the house, I make sure I let him know I appreciate it, even if I have to go and fix what he started :)

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  3. Very honest post lady. I think this all the time. But often too many times I say it out loud! I am working on it for the sake of a healthy and balance marriage. But I also believe that some things need to be communicated instead of you holding it in. There are effective ways to communicate so that the other person doesnt get offended, I just havent figured them out..lol. As far as the peacemaker, that would be my husband.

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  4. Thanks ladies I understand where all of you are coming from.

    I just learn to pick my BATTLES....lol...My Husband knows how to tell me about myself without offending me I haven't mastered that yet. So I just let the little things until I come across one I can’t let go unsaid!

    Also in relationships, there are often differences in opinion. Many times it is more important to keep the peace by agreeing to disagree rather than stand your ground and be right.

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  5. Thanks for the motivation..because at that time of the morning I probably would've said what you kept to yourself! I have been doing better at picking my battles. It is still a struggle for me at times. I'm still a work in progress.

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  6. LOL!!!!! Oh my goodness!! I will never understand it but men, husbands to be exact ALWAYS want their wives to notice the housecleaning they do. My husband is always pointing this out to me....I just smile and give him my I'm so happy & appreciative speech. he eats it up! Love to ya!!

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  7. @Mimi..It's still a struggle at times for me...lol

    @Nalahknee...Girl your huband to...lol

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  8. Picking your battles is SOO key! With my husband, i know whats important to him, so i try to highlight those things and the things that can be swept away, i try to minimize. Im sure my husband appreciates that i dont go off on how i can clean the apt on Monday and its totally trashed again by Wed, but that he most definitely wants me to notice that he loaded the dishwasher and ironed the clean clothes from the dryer, lol.

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  9. Yes Tamara picking your battles is the key.It work for me with Mister..lol..No need to get into it over the little stuff.

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  10. I have been searching for blogs as a newlywed wife and I stumbled across yours. I love the the honesty and look forward to healthy conversation. I was married in August but my husband and I have been living together for a couple of years. The one thing i have learned is men are clueless as to how much work we do in keeping a household together. It is important to be a peacemaker when possible because at times we also can get on their nerves. I have learned to put things in perspective....and accept that when it comes to domestic duties we view things differently...while my husband doesn't do as much as I would like as often as I would like...I have friends who husbands do nothing. I do try and show my appreciation and I realize he responds well to praise. Love & Light

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  11. @spritluv75...1st let me say Welcome to the Wives Club:-) Congratulation on the Marriage.

    Yes you are right man are clueless as to how much work we do. As a Wife you have to do a lot with out much as a thank you at times, but as I said I know he appreciate what I do.

    Thanks for stopping by.

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  12. Great post! And as others have said, this is a struggle. I have a very hard time holding my tongue, so I usually count to 5 then respond. The more I encourage him through silence and gratitude, the more he does around the house.

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  13. Wonderful post and I can sure can relate! Love the pics of your daughter. So cute!

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  14. @Mrstdj...I have to learn the count to 5, I'm still doing the long pause.

    @ANTM....Thank you.

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  15. I am still working on it....Be silent Be Still, is a chant I have...I may need a new chant though

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  16. Love your blog. I will remember to say thank you.

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  17. @tessie..I like that Be Silent Be Still..I think I will Try that...

    @Sistergirl..Thanks so much. I'm so new at blogging but I'm getting there.

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  18. Enoyed my visit, you have a great blog and a beautiful little girl.

    http://www.thejourneytowealth.blogspot.com

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  19. Still working on this,but most of the time I am the peacemaker to keep the peace in my marriage. Just found your blog and will be stopping again. Hope you stop by mine.

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